Code Words Gottman

Secret Words for lasting relationships

Choosing Code Words can help your relationship get out of a fight, and deal with a difficult situation.

You and your partner can decide on code words that are fun and meaningful to you. The funnier or more bizarre they are, the more the words may remind you to not take yourself too seriously, as well.

SUGAR CONE ( I am needing some reassurance that you love me & we’re okay. )

Volcano ( Things are getting heated for us in a way that may not be productive. Let’s cool down for a minute & then regroup.)

Niagara ( I’m feeling flooding right now, can we take a 20 minute break so I can calm down.)

When things get heated between you and your partner, it can be difficult to find the right words to communicate.

This is where CODE WORDS can be helpful. There is no need to form complete sentences and thoughts, just use the previously decided upon CODE WORDS in the moment. Your partner will know how you’re feeling, and maybe even share a laugh with you, which could change the mood of the moment as well.

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